SHADOW OF MEMORIES SOMETHING AWFUL HOW TO

Burying your head in the sand or denying this reality will only make the situation worse. If your anxiety about the future is stopping you from enjoying the present, you have a problem. If you find yourself spiraling into negativity and depression when a bad thing happens, you have a problem. If you feel like you can’t get out of your own head and over-thinking is stopping you from living a happy life, making decisions, getting things done, or forming meaningful relationships, then you have a problem. The first step to healing is acknowledging that you have a problem.

SHADOW OF MEMORIES SOMETHING AWFUL HOW TO

Based on research in psychology and my personal experiences, here is my advice for how to stop over-thinking and find peace in the present moment: 1) Accept that You Have a Problem with Over-Thinking. This is not a switch in the brain that can be easily flipped off, but rather, a pattern from which it requires dedication and work to recover. Unfortunately, they often push away the very people that they are worrying about or seeking support and reassurance from, because they can become obsessive, anxious, depressed, negative and difficult to be around. Many over-thinkers are lovely, intelligent, nurturing people who value relationships and care deeply for the people in their lives. Psychologists have found that over-thinking can be detrimental to human performance, and can lead to anxiety and depression, especially in women, who are much more likely than men to ruminate on stress and disappointments than men.Īs a psychologist and recovering over-thinker myself, I have a lot of compassion for people who end up in these spiraling negative thought patterns.

If you find yourself in this place frequently, you are what psychologists call a ruminator, or, an over-thinker, and this way of thinking can be harmful to your health. We might feel anxious in the present, having a hard time getting out of our own heads as we worry and obsess about the things that could go wrong. We might find that as soon as one bad thing happens, we associate it with all the other bad things that have happened in our lives and begin to feel miserable. We might obsess about or over-analyze regular experiences and interactions, reading into them things that aren’t actually there. We might worry about our past mistakes or current stresses, and how these could lead to negative outcomes in the future. We all do our best to stay positive, but occasionally we can slip into negative thinking patterns that can wreak havoc on our lives.

Shadow of memories something awful